In Memory Of....

I was suppose to go for final fitting for my gowns after work. But SB called just after office hours, his dad called to inform him that Beck died..I was kinda expecting that to happen. Beck hasn't been well for the past few days. She refused to eat and drink. When i saw her on sunday, she can hardly move. Thought of bringing her to the vet after my fitting session..but gosh..she can't wait.. Well, i guess its a relieve for her..We really dont wish to see her suffering in pain & hunger. I called sattine to change my appointment to 8.30pm. Got to rush home to bring Beck for cremation. When we reached home, SB's dad already cleared her pen, placed Beck in a shoe box. Beck was lying in the box. I was very calm when i saw it. Perhaps its bcos i've expected it to happen. Memory flashback to the time when i saw Oreo's (the previous guinea pig which died) body..at that time, i just broke down when i saw its body cos that happened too sudden.


It was raining heavily when we were on the way to Mt Peasant Hospital. When we sent Orea for cremation 2yrs ago, it was also raining. However the rain stopped when we reached Mt Peasant. We were told to fill up a form for the cremation of Beck.We chosen a common cremation for Beck. After paying up, the man just took Beck away.. without letting us take a last look at her. But this time round, i was prepared cos that was what happened when we brought Oreo there. Well, we did what we can do for Beck, give it a proper cremation.. Hope it can reunion with Oreo (her best friend) in another world...

To-do List

There's so much things to look into, to follow up with...I'm getting abit confused & uptight. Therefore, i've drafted a detailed to-do list so that i would not miss out any details...

Recap on to-do list
- View Album Layout
- 2nd Trial Make-up
- Draft AD schedule
- Xiong Di Meeting
-Collect wedding rings
- Collect wedding album
- Appt with Sattine for trying on father's suit
- Hen Party
- Order buffet (AD lunch)
- Book SPA
- Prepare Ang Baos for helpers
- Send AD Schedule to Emcee
- Prepare payment for PG & VG, Emcee, Bridal Car
- Send AD Schedule, Roles & Contacts to Jiemeis
- Send 15 songs to VG
- Wedding montage
- Table planning
- Draft speech for emcee (Solemnisation)
- Draft out guest list, table arrangement
- Draft out table-table photography arrangement
- March-in songs, Background songs
- Write thank-you cards for helpers
- Call up bank to increase credit limit for banquet payment

One week before wedding
- Highlighting hair
- Cfm timing with Emcee
- Cfm timing with Make-up Artist
- Cfm timing with MUA for Mil, Mom, Sis
- Cfm timing with VG & PG
- Cfm timing with bridal car rental
- Pack for Honeymoon
- Book Manicure & Pedicure Appt
- Meet up with hotel coordinator
- Montage Test
- Cfm no. of tables
- Run through dinner schedule again

3 days before wedding
- Collect marriage certificate
- Send a reminder to JP
- Go for SPA
- Collect gown

2 days before wedding
- Cfm arrival timing with Jiemeis & Xiong Di
- Pass catering contacts to both side parents
- Tagging luggages to be bring to Hotel - for Jiemei's easy reference
- Cfm table seatings with parents again, run through AD program with them

1 day before wedding
- Collect bridal car, hand bouquet, car corsages & parent's corsages
- Manicure & Pedicure
- Buy freesia for hairstyling

Guo Da Li

Woke up around 8plus in the morning.. Mom and Dad just back from market.I was told to call SB informing him that they can come over around 9.30am. Just before 10am, SB came with his parents (nowadays we cant find mei po anymore, so his parents will accompany him to my place) They were lugging 2 huge baskets which were rented from cake shop and plastic bags full of tarts. Dad and I was entertaining the in-laws while my bro helped my mom to unload all the stuffs in the baskets. It was an informal gathering for the in-laws. No formal ceremony involved. Just exchanging of gifts between the two families. Im glad everything went well... I think both SB and I are cool about it, just that our mothers are abit paranoid. SB's mom actually said that she had a sleepless night the night before. And my mom kept asking me if we did miss out anything for the in-laws. I assured them that everything is in order. Nothing to worry about. Hopefully my words gets into their head.
Stuff brought over by SB
- 20 boxes of walnut tarts
- "long feng" candles
- 2 packets of hokkien "ang pao" packets which consist of those peanut candies
- 12 or 24 oranges
- Red tray, one big red packet (for pinjin) and also a red cloth to wrap the red packet. (Bought from the cake shop)
- 2 big baskets to hold the GDL's stuff- 36 pig's trotter can
- Ang Pao to replace 2 bottles of hard liquor
-"si dian zhuan" my mother-in-law bought for me.

In return, my mom also prepared some "dowry" for me. She bought all the stuff before lunar 7th month. She said no preps should be done during that month. :) Pandang right! She got me a

- red baby bath basin
- baby's potty
- a set of sewing kit
- a mickey mouse musical box *_*"
- a set of "xi" quilt sheet from aussino
- towels for my in-laws and SB's brother (sewed with small little round coin lookalike called "yuan". Supposely, with this "yuan" on the towels, i would be able to get along better with my in-laws in future)
- a set of "xi" towels for SB and me
- 2 bolsters
- an ang pao for SB (cos my mom is suppose to buy him a pair of pants. we are using ang pao to replace the pants)
- an ang pao for SB's grandma ( not sure what is it for, i suppose it should be out of respect to her)
- a teapot set for my in-laws ( for tea ceremony on AD), for tea ceremony at my mom's place, we will be using my bro's wedding teapot set. So my mom only bought one set.- a set of lamps (to be light up on AD)
- A set of gold jewellery
- 2 bottles of orange juice

Stuff my mom bought for AD use will be
- a red umbrella
- a set of new silk pajamas ( from my sis-in-law)
- a gold ring for SB (to be given during tea ceremony)
- a red "xi" hanky. Its nice but i doubt i'll use it on AD. Haha...

D-Day approaches...

D-Day approaches...

The final pieces of the jig saw are finally falling into place. Bit by bit, the picture is getting complete, so are my nerves slowly eroding. It is a nightmare to co-ordinate the entire show, making sure every nut and screw falls into place

The major headache is the wedding banquet, both WJ and me want to keep things personal thus we came to a agreement that we will keep the banquet as small as possible. We plan only to invite close friends and relatives so we have more time to interact with our guests, making it more sincere. Next comes the dilemma of which colleague to invite. The easy and most PR savvy way will be to invite the entire dept, but it was against my stand of "keeping it personal". But not to invite everyone risk people gossiping behind your back. The devil on one side and the deep blue sea on the other. Well in the end I decided to invite colleagues whom I have close contact/interact with in my course of work. Can't be bothered if I offend some parties in the process.

Obviously my parents do not share the same sentiments. Without discussing with us, they opened the flood gates and invited the whole chain gang. Neighbours, friends, distant relatives etc etc the list goes on... people that I hardly know. So much for making it a personal event.

Well they are my parents after all, and I have to respect their decision. Maybe that their way of sharing their joy. Call it generation gap, but my thoughts and idea of joy sharing are poles apart from theirs. Or it could be because of poor communication that they misunderstood or did not get our hint that we wanted to keep thing small.. But hell, what is done is done we just have to make the best out of it. Isn't life full of surprises, we just have to take things into our own stride.

Having said and done about the guest list, they have yet to show any action on writing the invitation cards. Despite constant urging, the cards are still lying on the shelf. I reckon it will take a typhoon to "blow" then into getting things done.

Luckily, there are some events that did brighten us up. We to collect our wedding bands from fairy's inc on sat. We finally get to see the rings that we conceptionalised. They were a piece of art, except for the fact the WJ thinks my will look better if it is glossy, so its back to the jeweler's for some touch up. And on mon, we went to view the layout of our photo album. We got to hand in to the magic of photoshop, ordinary pics look so surreal after some editing. Wow...

Well just a few more things to confirm and we are all prepared (I hope so..). I'll be stocking up on panadol and coffee for the headaches and long nights to come.. haha.

A month away....

Only about a month away from our wedding. I'm trying my best to settle whatever I can so as to free myself from struggling days b4 wedding.
Recap on what is done
- Jiemei's meeting (29/9/07)
Very glad that Yan last min joined as Jiemei as she postponed her wedding to nx yr. Now, i hv 5 Jiemeis and 5 XiongDis. :) The Jiemei meeting was a fruitful one, we managed to go through the schedule for AD, their respective roles for AD and also brainstorming for the sabotage session.
- Sattine's Appt (1/10/07)
Managed to settle my ROM dress & Tea Dress. ROM dress would be a short white gown which comes with a red sash. It was the first one that i tried, both SB and i felt that it was the one. It was the Tea Dress that gave me headache. I tried on a few gowns, was rejected by SB. According to him, the Kua i wore sucks. so was striked off the list. Finally i settled on a short bright yellow gown. SB said i would look more refreshed in it after the morning session. :) Also managed to settle the AD hand bouquet design. Red is SB's fav colour. So we settled on a combination of bright red & cream roses. Car Deco was also decided. However it was rather disappointing as my coordinator only took out 3 bouquet of silk flowers for us to choose from. The silk flowers will be the centrepiece of the car deco. But, it doesnt looks good at all. But i guess i will hv to make do with that. Chosen the cream colour silk flowers with cream sash for the car deco. Finally, we made an appointment for our fathers to try out their suit. :) Another exciting matter is that i've managed to grab another MUA for my AD. Going for trial make-up next monday. Hopefully everything turns out well.
- Sending out invitation cards
W've distributed most of our invitation cards to our friends and colleagues. Another load off our minds. However, we cant sense the urgency from our parents side. All the invitation cards are still left intact. None have been writen nor sent out. Hopefully its not too late by the time they decided to take action. Haha..

There are still lotsa stuff waiting to be done.. Hopefully i can settle them all fast so that i can sit back and relax b4 wedding.